Valerie Bertinelli reveals the last words she and ex Eddie Van Halen exchanged prior to his death… and the gift he gave her during his cancer treatment
They divorced after 26 years of marriage in 2007.
But Valerie Bertinelli and her ex-husband Eddie Van Halen still cared deeply for one another even after their split.
In an excerpt obtained by People of her upcoming memoir, Enough Already: Learning to Love the Way I Am Today, Valerie revealed the touching last words they exchanged prior to his death at age 65 last year – and the gift her ‘soulmate’ gave her during his battle with cancer.
Strong bond: Valerie Bertinelli and her ex-husband Eddie Van Halen still cared deeply for one another even after their split; pictured 2001
Valerie and their son Wolfgang were among the loved ones spending time with Eddie during his final weeks of life in the hospital.
The two were also by his side in his final moments.
‘”I love you” are the last words Ed says to Wolfie and me,” Valerie recalled, ‘and they are the last words we say to him before he stops breathing.’
Valerie, whose connection with Eddie grew stronger as his cancer spread and he approached the prospect of death, also recalled the touching gift he gave her a year before his death.
‘I just love you’: Valerie, whose connection with Eddie grew stronger as his cancer spread and he faced the prospect of death, also recalled the touching gift he gave her a year before his death
Eddie had purchased Valerie a gold bar the size of a pendant while undergoing cancer treatment in Germany.
The rocker requested to speak with her privately on Thanksgiving Day in 2019 and gave her the touching gift after they went to a friend’s car to talk.
‘I hope you don’t think it’s weird, you know, that I bought my ex-wife this gift and didn’t get my wife anything,’ Eddie said with tears in his eyes. ‘I just love you.’
Remorse: Valerie also expressed regret over holding herself back from deepening their friendship during his battle with cancer
‘He wants me to know he messed up [during our marriage],’ Valerie wrote. ‘I contributed to our troubles too and I am also sorry.’
Valerie also expressed regret over holding herself back from deepening their friendship during his battle with cancer.
Though they were both remarried, Valerie says both of their marriages were facing issues.
‘There is no chance we are going to get back together,’ she said, ‘but I do know if one of us were to open up, the other one would too, and I don’t want to get into that.’
‘We made this beautiful son’: Valerie struggled to describe their relationship but said there was ‘no greater love’ than the one they had for one another
Valerie struggled to describe their relationship but said there was ‘no greater love’ than the one they had for one another.
‘I can’t explain the feelings Ed and I had for each other,’ she wrote. ‘Who really knows had he not died. I doubt it. I loved him more than I know how to explain and there’s nothing sexual about it. It was more than that. And Ed and I understood that.’
‘There is no greater love than what we had between the two of us and with that, we made this beautiful son.’
Valerie ultimately filed for legal separation from her second husband Tom Vitale in November 2021, but said her ‘love’ for Eddie played no role in their split.
‘We grew apart,’ the Hot In Cleveland actress said. ‘The decision has nothing to do with my love for Ed. I wish Tom the best and I know he feels the same way about me.’
Enough Already: Learning To Love The Way I Am Today will be available for purchased on January 18.
The way they were: Bertinelli with Eddie and their son Wolfgang in 1979